Last Friday’s Dream


Last week I had more time to blog because I scheduled a “staycation” to mark both the end of my daughter’s school year and the beginning of the summer season. I had hoped to squeeze in some housekeeping, as if I could wake up early every day and sleepwalk through the tasks painlessly until my daughter emerged from hibernation. Alas, I slept nearly as long each day as she did. Thus only minimal cleaning was done.

On Friday, I had a dream that first seemed to be of the classic wish fulfillment variety. I was walking through my house. The morning sun streamed through the windows. Not a book or a blanket was out of place, and every surface was free of dust. I surveyed my bedroom, very pleased that I had somehow cleaned the whole house to a level that I’ve never achieved in real life. I then said something so improbable that when I awoke I wondered if I’d had one of those dreams that seem to come from someone else’s mind, as if the experience were first person in a fictional sense. I smiled and said, “Now I’m ready to deal with Satan. He’ll be here soon.”

I then woke myself up. After all, this was one of those dreams that one doesn’t really want to see what comes next. The statements I uttered and the attitude underlying them startled me. I had the serene confidence of an regular hiker walking along a familiar trail. I knew a challenge awaited me, but I had no doubt I could contend with it (with the help of Jesus, of course).

I wondered over the origin of such a dream. I haven’t remembered many details of my dreams lately, but when I do, it seems that I am often dreaming of things I’ve recently read in the Bible. This pattern reminds me of Hebrews 4:12 (NIV):

For the word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart.

My dream of the clean house could be a reflection on Luke 11:24-26 (GNT):

24 When an evil spirit goes out of a person, it travels over dry country looking for a place to rest. If it can’t find one, it says to itself, ‘I will go back to my house.’ 25 So it goes back and finds the house clean and all fixed up. 26 Then it goes out and brings seven other spirits even worse than itself, and they come and live there. So when it is all over, that person is in worse shape than at the beginning.

I confess that I have a waking attitude about Satan that is still somewhat Gen X—he is a trite, gauche bogeyman whom psychology knocked off his cloven feet sometime in the 1950s. Now that I’ve taken time to read more of the Bible, I see that this perspective doesn’t neuter Satan at all. Actually, it opens a window for him. As we laugh at him, it is harder to see that pride, envy, isolation and indifference are his handiwork. When we give up, he smiles invisibly beside us.

But Christ denies him victory. By his sacrifice on the cross, he did neuter the forces that do not wish us well, that want us to be broken and alone. When you surrender to Christ, the demons may come to tempt you, but they have no victory over you, as Paul wrote in Romans 8:38-39 (KJV):

38 For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,

39 Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Jesus Christ our Lord.

Last Night’s Dream


Dreams are notorious in their capacity to slip from waking memory. I’ve already detailed what I can remember of last night’s dream to husband, dad, and sister. In writing about it, I hope to cement it a bit more to my memory. Or maybe this recounting is pointless, and the dream will surrender to its keeping about as well as my hair would submit to the hold of Aqua Net hairspray. Which reminds me that I failed at 80’s Big Hair. No matter how much extra super hold hairspray I used, the volume on the crown of my head would collapse within 90 minutes.

Last night’s dream does hearken to the Big Hair era in some ways, even though no one had lofty hair in the dream. Within this dream, my family reunited to the place where we lived during a time when perms were almost mandatory. Back then, we lived in a large second story apartment that had once been a convent. The apartment was situated on the grounds of a Catholic church where my dad worked as a maintenance man/groundskeeper. The first floor of the building housed a massive boiler, so at the time I hoped that we’d never get snowed in long enough for any of us to go the way of Jack Torrance/Nicholson in The Shining.

In the dream, we were planning to meet at the apartment for reasons unknown to my rational mind. I just knew I had to get there. Since I know next to nothing of the principles of architecture, my dream buildings have only minimal fidelity to reality. Schools and churches morph into malls or airports. The homes of my memory fuse into homes of people we once knew. In this dream, our church apartment was stuck to one of the school buildings, and part of an amusement park split the parking lot.

I had to walk through the basement of the grade school building to get to the apartment. On the way, I passed several children who had stock-photo perfection, with clear skin and perfect smiles. One of the girls asked who I was and seemed completely enthralled to meet someone who once lived at her school. I also encountered my sixth-grade teacher who lost several toes in a mowing accident and in real life left teaching to devote herself full-time to her local chain of donut/pizza shops named after herself (the shops are still popular, by the way). How anyone possibly has the time to teach full-time and oversee four restaurants is beyond me. It’s not like she did this all by herself, but I still wonder how her days ever ended. Now she’s retired, sold the restaurants, and she still makes time to appear in her former students’ dreams. Catholic school was full of people who accomplished impossible levels of multi-tasking.

So there I was talking to my teacher-who-never-slept, and I noticed that she was a perfected version of herself. Her Carol-Brady-minus-the-bottom-layer hairdo had stunning highlights, and her face had that wrinkle-free Snapchat glow. She told me, “When your daughter was in my third-grade class, I already knew she had autism, but it wasn’t my place to speak those words.”

What? I don’t think she ever taught third grade. My daughter never went to that school. Such are the mysteries of dreams.

Then I had to rush to the apartment to meet my family. I could see that security gates were descending from the ceiling in the school(another feature which doesn’t correspond to reality), and I started running to get through the building before I was trapped overnight.

I reached the apartment and met my mom and brother. I didn’t consider where my dad and sister might be. What the point of this meeting? To see each other in the apartment once more?

When I turned to leave, I noticed that the old front door had appeared. For whatever reason, we had to walk through the school to enter the apartment, but we could leave as we did in real life. I tried opening the door and walking down the metal steps to the parking lot, but I was terrified by two things in the parking lot, a roller coaster track and a massive water tower. Like many people, I am somewhat afraid of heights, but my bass-ackwards acrophobia makes me more afraid to look up at something high than to look down from a height. The sight of that water tower had the proverbial train wreck quality to it. It was taller than any water tower had the right to be (tall enough that there was a foggy haze between it and the ground) and it had five massive bulbs to store water, one in the center and four others arranged like points on a compass. The metal arms holding the four outside tanks looked too small to hold their weight. I walked back into the apartment, afraid that one of the massive water tanks would crash to the ground.

So then I did something absurd. My brother told me that there was a vague threat of a terrorist attack and that there might be an airlift to evacuate the wary. So I went out to the balcony where we used to keep a container garden, and I didn’t have to wait long for a helicopter to retrieve me. The inside of the helicopter was silent as an elevator and turbulence free. I looked down once I knew we were well past the water tower of doom, and I felt peace as I saw massive highways recede into the distance. The highways near Lima aren’t massive in reality.

And that is what I remember of the dream.


To Wish Impossible Things

I don’t have much time for writing this evening. This is the sort of reasoning that drives my dwindling number of blog posts. I don’t know where to begin, and I don’t have the time to start.

If I keep waiting to write until an afternoon yawns wide before me, eventually I’ll cease writing here. This blog will be yet another casuality of attrition.

So I will share this evening’s stream of thought, that I need daydreams about as much as my body needs oxygen. I’ve learned that waking dreams can be crucial in coping with many forms of adversity, especially chronic pain.

The key is to persuade my mind to reflect of pleasing things rather than awful ones. I’ve had persistent nerve pain in my right hip this week, which is a distressing development because my as-known nerve damage is on the left side. The pain strikes like a beacon from the black box of an airplane that’s crashed and refuses to let its wreckage be lost. The volume of its signal is a solid 7 out of 10 while I drive.

It is very tempting indeed to anticipate more of the same suffering in the days to come. However, I’ve found that a daydream of a perfect place is the best tool I have to cope with this nerve pain.

My perfect place isn’t merely some generic place like an idyllic beach. It is impossibly perfect, a forest retreat with city utilities and Wi-Fi that never fails. Here I relax in a cabin that is covered in vines and surrounded with flowers year round. Here I can stop time and have as much time to myself as I need. I might even let a pet or two join me in my repose:

I feel that this place has such a conducive vibe for learning that L’Orange and I could read through spans of the canon of literature with ease. He’d take along my copy of Washington Irving’s short stories that’s been collecting dust and good intentions on my coffee table in real life, and we’d thrill over those pastoral, sometimes spine-tingling tales.

My perfect place would be self-cleaning. It would engage all my of senses.Any food I wanted would appear at my wish. There’s something so comforting to me in imagining a perfectly satisfying meal, which would depend on what combination of salt, fat, or sugar I’m craving at the moment. Or sometimes I imagine something quite wholesome, like garden-fresh tomatoes on top of barley with a brightly flavored dressing.

What seems delightful today would be a small plate of the best fries I ever tasted, which was at a random restaurant in Solvang, California, back in ’94. I ate them at a sidewalk table, and the fries had a stellar crisp-to-fluff ratio with a hint of garlic flavor. The weather was superb for outdoor dining, as it almost never is semirural Ohio. In the perfect place, I’d eat those fries with a bit of fresh dill on top and school cafeteria ketchup for dipping. No ketchup has ever rivaled the high vinegar type of my school days.

And now my time for writing really has dwindled this evening.

Do you have a perfect place you visit in your mind?

By the way, I feel like I am remiss in writing about L’Orange without mentioning his real life sidekick Buddy:

Wetlands Photo Walk, August 18


I haven’t walked through the wetlands since late July because it has been undergoing some necessary periodic maintenance to water lines and pedestrian paths. While I preferred this preserve in its wild state, there were portions that had become nearly impassable to visitors, which include biology students from the school that created this preserve from donated land.

When I moved to this neighborhood three years ago, I actually felt a tiny bit uneasy about living so close to something wild. This surprised me given my affinity for the local parks that offer acres of access to forest and prairies. The difference is in timing I suppose. I seldom wander through those parks when wildlife other than birds are apt to show themselves.

The first week I lived here, I had a short dream that I had a drone’s eye view of the wetlands, and I spotted a bear rear up on its hind legs and sniff the air. I quickly woke myself up and considered the odds that such a vision could actually become a reality in this part of Ohio. I drifted back to sleep content with its slim possibility.

This brings me to a tangent. Last summer I had the privilege of reading a century-old account that one of my ancestors wrote about the pioneer era of the Upper Penninsula of Michigan. It was a school report written by one of my third cousins, who related how her mother had seen bears picking berries whilst standing on their hind legs. One of my second great grandfathers was a game warden and pioneer to that region of Michigan. Back in that time, that area must have been far wilder than anything my dreaming mind could produce now.

I did spot a young coyote trotting down our street at dusk a couple years ago. That is wild enough for me.

Back to the present, I was delighted to see that the reed (Phragmites) are in bloom. Their brown/burgundy plumes signal that summer is at its peak.


Lucid Dream: The River Styx Recast as a Midcentury Town


Last night I had the first lucid dream I’ve had since my early surgery recovery in March. In that dream, which must have been fueled by the painkiller regimen I was taking in the days after my surgery, I was a cashier in a large baby supply store. My boss asked me to stay after closing for a special customer who was slated to arrive then. After the regular customers had left, a middle-aged woman arrived and purchased enough infant clothes, furnture, and mattresses to fill a box truck. Her purchases were intended as anonymous gifts for expectant mothers in need. She had a self-inking stamp engraved with the phrase, “A Gift from Don Longhorn.”

She had me steady every crib mattress as she stamped it with her oddball message. She had such a chaste aura that she seemed the type who’d invent tame terms for the grittier facts of life. In her mental lexicon, it was possible that all babies conceived without medical assistance were a gift from someone’s Don Longhorn.

Last night a storm raged outside, and I slept through it with a lucid dream about a place that was very in-between. I went there with my parents, my brother, and my sister. All of us had made some sort of pact to start over in a new place, and we were to “cross over” in a small town that looked like it was plucked from somewhere in the American Midwest of 1950. We reached this town by walking through an old elevator with a bellows style inner door in a forlorn building in our own town.

By the way, it was as if this entire dream was  based upon an alternate reality to begin with. My brother, my sister, and I all looked about 18 years old at the same time, which is impossible considering that my sister was almost 9 years old when my brother was born. It was like all of us had hit a pause button on aging waiting for my brother to become an adult. With Mom and Dad, just the five of us were a family. No grandchildren, spouses, or significant others had appeared in our lives yet.

I don’t know what struggle or impasse inspired a pact to cross over to whatever lay on the other side of this town. There was a hospital waiting room with a glass wall for observation that we had to cross through to reach this promised land. I was last in line. As my hand held the door open, I knew that I could not join them. I needed to get back to the reality we had known.

As we had been walking through this small town, Mom and Dad quietly warned us that we should not be seen by the fellow in charge. He looked to be a combination of a school principal and mayor, and he was dressed like an early 50’s funeral home director. This role was played by none other than the late Chester Bennington of Linkin Park. Dad said that we’d have a hard time leaving this town if this man knew we were there.

As we walked up to the hospital waiting room (all the buildings in this one street town had open walls facing its Main Street, by the way), Dad handed me the key to the old elevator we used to enter this city. He told us that if we didn’t succeed in our plan to travel to the new land through the hospital, we could go back home through the elevator. We could not let anyone see us go back into the elevator. Once inside, we’d have three minutes to cross through, or we’d have to go back into this oddball town and try to be unseen opening the elevator door again.

In handing me the key, Dad must have known that I had the least resolve in the pact for our relocation. Once we left the hospital waiting room, we could never go back, but we could cross freely between this Styx-like town and home indefinitely if needed.

I was last in line to enter the waiting room, and I felt a deep conviction that I could not go along. When I announced that I planned to stay and possibly join them at some point in the future, my sister told me that she was never going to speak to me again. Mom and Dad glanced at me in resignation, and I turned back to this mysterious town.

It seemed that I spent the better part of a day milling through town and gauging its power structure. I quickly realized that I needed to get home via the elevator with the key Dad gave me, lest I be stuck in this place for years.

Chester (who seemed to be the mayor) kept a constant pulse of the town’s activities. Who was visiting? Would they lure anyone away? Was everyone wrapped in enough tasks and conversations to avoid noticing how long they’d been there?

There was a rose bush salesman who was to arrive that day, and this seemed a significant foreign threat for some reason. Two women attired in long-skirted suit dresses were watching and waiting for his arrival, musing over whether the salesman would offer bushes of a better quality than the acres of flowers that already enveloped the town.

He arrived and chatted with Chester in this office, who told him that they did not want what he was selling. The salesman left a sample bush in the street, spotted me and quietly let me know that many people had tried to call my dad at work and wondered where he was.

As Chester distracted he people who were trying to get a closer look at the new rose bush (which was full of antique yellow blooms, by the way), I saw my chance to use my key to get back into the elevator home without anyone seeing me.

I opened the outer door and quickly closed the inner bellows door behind me. The inside was not an elevator but a small waiting room attached to a lobby of sorts. There was a black rotary phone on a side table that rang, and I felt compelled to pick it up. The call was for me, but I have no recollection whatsoever of the conversation, of the other speaker, the subject matter, etc. Between the telephone conversation and the furnishings that begged speculation about their age and style (the room was stunning), I exceeded the three minute rule. It was as if this room was designed to seduce its visitors into staying, which is odd because it seemed unremarkable when I passed through it with my family earlier in the dream.

I woke myself up in dread over the possibility of going back into this town to endure the incognito process all over again.

And now for a coda to this dream . . . It is odd indeed that my mind conjured up Chester Bennington for this dream. He reached fame right around the time I became a mother, and there’s nothing quite as effective as parenthood to insulate someone from the currents of pop culture. At least in my case, my perspective turned much closer to home once my daughter was born. Sometimes bands are defunct before I hear them for the first time. It seems that no more than a fortnight lapses between a movie’s premiere and its release for home viewing.

There is only one song I know well by Linkin Park, and that song is “Waiting for the End” from 2010. It’s one of the few songs that have captured my attention in the last ten years, and it is one of my favorite songs for car singing. (Who else is a secret car singer?) For whatever reason, I immediately dismissed the possibility that this song could be about death. I thought it was like the Death tarot card, just signifying the prospect for deep change.

Now that Chester Bennington has taken his life, I remember a crucial quote from Maya Angelou, “Believe people when they show you what they are.”

This reinforces me how serious mental illness can become. Here was this wealthy, famous, talented man who spoke plainly of his suffering. He sought treatment and confided his struggle to millions, yet he lost his battle.

Another Lucid Dream

Today I am reblogging a past post about a dream I cherish. My recent dreams have been more elusive than usual to my waking mind. I wish I could recall them all, at least the pleasant ones.

Intensity Without Mastery

Just some quick thoughts on last night’s lucid dream. In it my daughter and I were walking through a forest that’s close to our neighborhood. We live on an odd brink of wilderness that’s interrupted by more suburban developments that end in miles of farmland with just enough small forests between to break the wind. Back to the dream, we found a grassy clearing in the woods where lots of people were walking through. It was a forest traffic roundabout, but the circular path was low like a small valley.

My daughter spotted her best friend and went ahead of me with her. I lingered in the grassy roundabout, curious about how this valley was formed with no real hills around it. Then I was caught in a reverie considering if it was time to abandon the apartment where my daughter and I lived before I married her step dad…

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Divine Things


I once had a dream I walked with Walt Whitman along an Israeli beach. He strolled with his hands clasped behind his back and quoted from “Song of the Open Road”: “I swear to you, there are divine things more beautiful than words can tell.”

I have a hard time remembering what else he told me. I recall that he mentioned that there wasn’t just good and evil; folly was a near equal contender. He then bid me goodbye, and then I saw art through the eyes of some pundits from a canine civilization (who were predictably sitting around a felt-clad poker table).

I took the above photo at the dawn of this century. I visited the Pacific coast in Washington state and snapped this picture as the sun set.